Apr 20, 2016

活在现实与理想的夹缝中

我以为  坚持就可以找到出路
我以为  找到了就可以永久
我以为  我活在生命给我的最好的安排

我们活在现实与理想的夹缝中
在那个一线之差
就是我们的修炼。
在生命转动的历程中

有些人  因为现实的压力而往前走
有些人  因为梦想的动力而往前走
有些人  因为有了另一半而向前行
有些人  因为寻找对的人而向前行

在现实的考验面前
究竟是逼出人的劣行
抑或淬炼人对梦想的坚持
与践行的能力?

常听人说
上天会给我们最好的安排。
可是
他并没有告诉我们,
这是他的安排呀!

是我们智慧不足
无法体会,
还是  其实这是误会一场!
上天只把你带到这里,
我们需要为自己的未来、理想
做安排啊!

因为神不会给你答案
所以当眼前有困难时
正是你与困难对话的时候。
神不会给你答案,
但是困难会给你引导,
让你知道在现实与理想的夹缝中
选择最忠于自己的那一方。

其实
现实与理想并不相抵
我们在夹缝中
学习生活
学会生命。

#在压力中乱写

Apr 4, 2016

好笑的晚餐时光

突然很怀念大学有一段时期,
吃晚餐的日子。
那时候的晚餐,通常由一位室友打包给我和另一位室友。
我们通常吃在雪隆一带称为“杂饭”的食物。
我们会预估室友回来的时间,然后打开客厅的灯和风扇。在空旷的客厅的一角,铺上报纸,再找一个箱子放上去成为饭桌。
我们一直都是这样3个人一起吃晚餐。

我不记得我们吃了什么了。好不好吃,便宜或者是贵,辣还是咸,都不记得了。

我们三人围在一起吃晚餐唯一不变的是,笑声不断,常常一顿晚餐吃很久,大部分的时间都是笑到饱。
我忘了什么事情那么好笑,我们看到饭盒的菜摆不美也可以马拉松式的编一个故事,自己讲自己笑。
或者是说起大学的同学的事情也无限延伸的加盐加醋笑一番。
更常发生的是看到铺在地上的过期报纸,把新闻头条拿来调侃一番,再笑到噎到。

到后来我们买了一个二手冰箱,开始自己煮晚餐。
我们依然铺报纸坐在地上吃饭,笑点更是从洗菜开始就绵绵不断,绝无冷场。
往往吃完一顿晚餐,都因为笑太多而累坏了。

其实,真的有那么好笑吗? 真的有! 不是我们笑点低,而是3个人彼此娱乐讲笑话的功力实在高,默契也非常好。朋友偶尔来我们家玩,也是笑翻天的。当然也有因为笑话太高级而听不懂的时候。

那时的我们,吃最简单的晚餐,连家具都没有,却用很多很多的笑声温暖彼此。
有时候,我白天遇到挫折难过,到了晚餐时间就还是会快快乐乐的吃饭,笑一整晚,就抒解了心情。

我很怀念,却也回不去了。

回不去当时的简单,回不去当时的快乐。

今天即使我们3人坐在一起会很好笑,也回不去以前那一段时光了。

只能好好的纪念那一段有两位很好笑的室友的时光!

Apr 2, 2016

Are you happy with your current job?

My friend post a question in our group chat:
How many of you are happy with your current job? Do you feel excited going to work everyday?

This is the question I asked myself repeatedly when I feel like quitting my job, and the frequency of asking it increased last year.

When do I doubts about my decision to go into this job which totally change my career path?
Normally when I am struggling to pick up new skills (either technical skills or soft skill like management and leadership). I am unsure about my past 10 years working experience and 4 years or tertiary education is "useful" in current job. I think I already excel in something, I must at least achieve some achievement.

I will start thinking how would I be if I am still in previous job, doing something I am totally good at.
But, why am I doing this now, struggling myself with something unknown, something which full of uncertainties, something that need to start from scratch, something which is not along the flow of common needs…… that's a struggle of my dream with reality……

I think my friend's question is a very hard question. I am not always happy with my work. Not always excited to go to work.

But deep down in heart, I found JOY with what I did. It is a strength that support me to go through all the bitter part.
I found joy to see my subordinates growth through their hardship, found their own path.
I found joy to see people around me having better understanding about life and change their perspective towards relationship.
I found joy to see companies and staff appreciate each other's effort and contributing more to the society.
I found joy when I know deep down this is the way I wanted to go, and I know it is still a long way to go but I have a team to walk hand in hand.

The passion to work is not the work by itself but the passion towards my life. My work, is the platform for me to learn and perform, to pursue my dreams. Its all about myself.

Would I be happy with this job forever? I don't know! because there are always new challenge out there.

I will need to ask the questions from time to time and clear all my doubts. I believe in different stage of life I will face different obstacles that challenge my believe. Life is so unpredictable but there is always a restart button. I believe changes by itself is a strength in life.